Lesbian dates dating
Now that we’ve pinpointed some of the biggest lesbian dating DON’Ts, let’s talk about the DO’s.I’m going to skip over the obvious stuff, such as showering beforehand and not texting during the meal (although with some dates I’ve been on, these things weren’t as apparent as one might think/hope).Now that we’ve covered the basics, the idea is RINSE AND REPEAT.With each stage of dating you build in a little more, assuming you like her and aren’t planning on trying to direct her into the friend zone (that’s a whole separate article).Don’t say “we should hang out.” If you want to ask someone out, ask them out.Don’t allude to some hypothetical situation in which you could share airspace with them.You might imagine that dating a new woman will be a lot like starring in your very own girl-on-girl romantic comedy: you’ll be asked out in some quirky yet perfect way, your date will clearly express interest in you and be a master of seduction, and when you finally have sex, it will be like the 4th of July in your pants and Christmas in your heart (or Hanukkah, whatevs). I think we all have our own lesbian dating horror stories that we like to tell our friends as a warning of things to come. If we could just collectively raise the bar a little and invest as much in the art of dating as we do in the art of Facebooking, maybe lesbian courtship could be a brave new world. The revolution won’t come overnight, so let’s start small with some of the main DOs and DONT’s.
Because you’re a lesbian, there’s an automatic assumption that you’re cheap. And while there are certain women who’ll need to change panties when you pay for the 0 dinner, for most women it’s the thought that counts.I know it’s easy to say “let’s get a drink after dinner,” because there are a million bars and nothing creates fake intimacy like booze, but try to think of something else.Victorians used to call it a love token, lesbians should call it flowers, wine or something you saw that made you think of her.And remember, even after you’ve “got her,” you have to keep her.Maintain the momentum that got you here, otherwise it’s like dating blue balls…no one wants that.